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The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing

Re: The Challenges of Mental Health Wellbeing

I know this might sound flippant lil Sis @outlander but this isn't your life forever. I believe stress has a huge part to play in your allergies. You won't have that forever. It might calm down or disappear in time. Please don't give up. For selfish reasons, I need you in my life, and I'm sure others do too. You've had a very profound effect on me. And I want to see you eventually break free of these shackles that bind you, and you will thrive. That will be amazing to see. You have to believe there is more for you, that you will have better days. I can't say when, but please try to hold on. We are all here for you. Always❤️❤️❤️❤️

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I will try sis @Sans911 Heart
I have been caught in the middle of 'i want to stay and make life better somehow' and 'i just cant anymore' for a long time. i have been trying to make life better, less stressful etc. one thing i really struggle with is even if i was to step back from caring, the kids grow up and have their own lives etc what is left then? whats left?
i know im young but in a way i just dont feel young, my lifes been so topsy turvy its hard to see what is left and what i want to do or how to get there. I try not to compare to much between my life and a 'normal' life but its hard when i dont feel normal. i know there is a some sort of glowing fight left, i see is sometimes but i cant seem to reignite it. Not even buying my horse back or riding again. i just feel numb to it all

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@outlander sending support to you 💐

 

I'm glad you're also a bit skeptical of this concept of a "normal" life- the older I've gotten, the more I've questioned this idea that there even is such a thing. I think everyone has things that they go through which are challenging, in one way or another- we're just not necessarily open about everything with everyone so there can be illusions that people might have ideal or completely happy lives.

 

I'm hearing that you've been struggling for a while- I'm really sorry that things have been rough. It sounds like you've probably learned how you can manage distress and risk in that time, though- I encourage you to draw upon your strengths and resilience from how you've coped before 💗

 

Let us know if you're safe for now? Or if you've been in touch with crisis supports if you're at that level of risk? Feel free to drop a reply here or by email to team@saneforums.org Heart

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I agree with @Sans911 , although I haven't suffered much from allergies I believe stress exacerbates them no-end @outlander, so this won't likely be how they are once your life circumstances change, and they do ...... things don't remain always the same ......

 

Stress has affected my health in different ways than allergies, so I work at stress reduction, and that helps tone down everything else.  Easier said than done, of course ...... but I am adding my voice to say "take courage" too.

 

💜🌻 

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I'm hearing you very clearly @outlander and I'm not saying there is necessarily a normal life for you. What kind of life you will have is partly opportunities, partly luck and partly your doing.

Yes, stepping away from all you know and deal with will be foreign. Threatening even. You have never known being just you outside your responsibilities. That might be a difficult & challenging process to get to know the 'real' you. But it also might be liberating. And perhaps you'll still think of giving up at times. Even when life is going alright.

I think because you gave your sister your horse, and bought it back, you still might feel robbed. Perhaps, like me, you've never really 'owned' anything in your life. But when you finally do it feels good.

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thank you @Former-Member yes i went for a drive and just got back. needed some time out i think


thanks @Faith-and-Hope yes definently stress can be play a big part in things. ive been working on some more down time to help with some stress reducing too

@Snowie xo

@Sans911 your right, i havent ever really owned anything that wasnt shared or it was "mine' but then got taken.
it would be good to explore who i am but yes scary too. hard to imagine a different life i guess..

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Thank you everyone for helping me earlier

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Afternoon sis @Sans911 

Hoping your day is going ok hun

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Hi @Sans911 @Snowie @outlander @Faith-and-Hope @Former-Member and all wonderful forumites here.


I would just like to thank you all for reading my earlier post and giving me support with what I wrote earlier on. A big thank you to @Sans911 for your advice on colouring in and so forth! I did manage to speak to a uni counsellor yesterday and speak to them about my issues. She told me I had to put in some time each day just for me, away from my uni work, family/friends issues, volunteer work, etc as I need to have some time to just do my thing. I told her about my writing and she told me to try and get back into that as well as try some pleasure reading away from uni texts. She also suggested I do some knitting or craft project specifically aimed at me. That's why I've decided to knit myself a 'Wellness Blanket' which I've adapted a pattern of a blanket from a Spotlight project sheet and plan to work on. It has 20 squares plus a border which will make a small blanket - 65 x 80cm - but I'm planning on making that and then maybe extending it, depending how I go. It's a small project but I've managed to knit 2 squares over last night and this morning which is an achievement and I feel proud of myself. That also helped me feel good about myself as I got knocked back for a rental property yesterday afternoon which made me feel upset- the owner decided they didn't like our application despite the real estate agent doing reference checks and so forth. Better luck next time!

 

Please keep holding on and remember, each of you are special, wonderful, deserving, fabulous forum people! No matter how tough things get, please stay strong and remember that I am here for you thinking about you here in forumland. I regard each of you as special people and I enjoy your company☺️!

 

Take care and stay safe😎

Judi9877💐🍀🌈

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